There was a time in my life where I had thought<\/em> I had fallen in love with a particular person. Although things didn\u2019t start that way in the relationship \u2013 he was just a friend – it seemed that after some time, I began to feel differently. Once I had made him aware of these feelings, and due to a great mix of factors, it would have made probable sense for this particular person to declare his undying love in return.\u00a0 In fact, the total opposite happened.<\/p>\n I spent a while wondering why on earth things hadn\u2019t gone in the way that I assumed they would. I had begun to see this man as my destiny \u2013 decided that he was the only<\/em> man for me and was \u2018The One\u2019.<\/p>\n What\u2019s all this got to do with listening to our inner voice you might be asking? And here\u2019s the funny part\u2026.<\/p>\n All along and most especially from the very first moment I had met that person, I knew<\/em> he wasn\u2019t \u2018The One\u2019<\/p>\n Confused?\u00a0 Let me explain.<\/p>\n With hindsight, I now realize it wasn\u2019t love at all. It was falling in love with the idea of love. \u00a0Somewhere along the way, I had ignored my inner voice that told me \u2018this is just friendship\u2019 and instead allowed myself to create an illusion of love.\u00a0 I had gotten swept up in the care, affection and attention he was lavishing and began to weave it into a pretty little bubble of \u2018Mr Right.\u2019\u00a0 I was constantly seeking validation from friends if they thought it would work out for me and him because deep down, I knew the answer already. I always had known.<\/p>\n Of course it wouldn\u2019t. We weren\u2019t right for one another at all.<\/p>\n If you constantly question and seek validation, then chances are; that situation isn\u2019t the correct situation for you. When something is correct, you will know<\/em> it.<\/strong><\/p>\n For every decision we are faced with – we know the answer right off. We always know. But sometimes, we (or perhaps more specifically our ego<\/em>) choose to ignore and create an illusion instead. We fuel this illusion and deny our inner voice the chance to speak. We don\u2019t want to hear it because it might not be the answer we like. If we listen, it might force us to make decisions or changes that we don\u2019t want to make.<\/p>\n As an example, how many times have you been in a job or relationship that\u2019s boring or unfulfilling, or simply \u2018stale\u2019\u2026. Yet it\u2019s familiar, safe, conditioned\u2026. You couldn\u2019t possibly contemplate leaving because of the (perceived) catastrophic effect on the other areas of your life such as finance, living situation, children involved etc\u2026.<\/p>\n Yet one day, fate steps in and makes the decision for you. You lose your job or arrive home to discover your partner has been cheating on you. You\u2019re suddenly thrown into turmoil and the \u2018Why did this happen?\u2019\u00a0 victimized approach is adopted.<\/p>\n However, had you listened to your inner voice and the niggling concerns that would have most definitely reared their head on many occasions throughout that situation \u2013 you perhaps wouldn\u2019t need to ask that question. The answer was already in front of you for a long time. You just didn\u2019t want to see it, or acknowledge it.<\/p>\n Sometimes a situation we want to be good for us isn\u2019t good for us on a soul level. Therefore, that little voice will always try to dissuade us, no matter how much our ego might want to encourage us\u2026.<\/p>\n Always, always trust your inner voice<\/em><\/strong>. It may not give you the answer that you want to hear every single time\u2026 because life isn\u2019t supposed to be perfect! But if you always try to listen and trust, you can be sure that you\u2019ll be guided in the correct way forward. You\u2019ll also feel a lot more peaceful in yourself. That\u2019s how you\u2019ll know you\u2019re listening good and proper.<\/p>\n I was chatting with a friend recently about using our intuition and she was nodding in agreement. \u2018Yeah, yeah, I know we sometimes get a gut feeling on things\u2026\u2019 She considered this for a moment before looking at me curiously. \u2018But do we always know what\u2019s correct for ourselves?\u2019 Good question huh? I\u2019m sure we\u2019ve all experienced that moment many times when something happens to throw everything off balance. A situation that seems devastating or challenging. 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